You don’t hear people talk about it much, but it’s real. When something changes in how you experience sex, connection, or your own body, it can leave you feeling unsure, disconnected, or even ashamed. Maybe you’re struggling with arousal. Maybe it’s performance anxiety. Maybe you’re avoiding intimacy altogether, even though part of you misses it.

You might be worried about how your body looks. About not getting or staying hard. About not feeling anything at all. You might wonder if your body’s normal. If your partner notices. If you're just not built for this. And so you stay quiet. You laugh it off. You tell yourself it's not a big deal. But underneath it all, it chips away at your confidence. At your sense of self. At how close you let people get.

Sometimes it starts after a specific experience — a breakup, a health scare, a rejection, or a moment where you felt exposed or not enough. Sometimes it builds over time, without a clear reason. Either way, sex starts to feel like pressure instead of pleasure. And instead of being in the moment, your mind is somewhere else — planning, apologising, panicking, or completely shutting down.

You’re not broken. This isn’t who you are now forever. It’s a pattern your system learned. And it can be unlearned.

Sexual struggles may not be physical at all. They’re often about how safe you feel in your own body. Whether it’s performance anxiety, body image, fear of being seen, shame around desire, or trauma from the past, your nervous system holds onto it. Not because you’re weak, but because somewhere along the line, your body decided it wasn’t safe to open up.

That’s the work we do together. Not to fix you, but to bring you back to a place where intimacy feels good again. Where you’re not bracing for something to go wrong. Where your body feels like yours again.

Using a gentle mix of hypnotherapy, subconscious release work, and nervous system calming tools, I help you shift the pressure, the fear, the loop of overthinking. You stop performing. You stop rehearsing. You stop checking out mid-connection. Instead, you start feeling again. Real presence. Real ease. Real choice.

For some people, that means getting arousal back. For others, it means feeling confident in how their body looks or works. For many, it’s the simple relief of not having to pretend anymore. Clients often say they stop worrying about being enough. They stop overanalysing. They stop hiding. And slowly, their body becomes a place they trust again. Not something they have to fix or apologise for.

Whether we work online or in person at my quiet, private space in Bury St Edmunds, there’s no pressure. No awkward questions. No judgment. Just a calm, respectful space to come back to yourself. Where intimacy becomes something you actually want again. Not something you dread or avoid.